Well hi there,
Quick pulse check: most of us were taught how not to get pregnant, but not how to get turned on. We learned risk, not reward; mechanics, not meaning. No wonder so many people feel disconnected from their bodies and confused about what “good sex” even is.
This week, we’re rewriting the script — less performance, more practice; less guessing, more knowing.
Let’s get into it.
– Team Necterine
REAL TALK
If sex feels mid, it’s not you… it’s the script
Somewhere along the way, “sex” got defined so narrowly it forgot half the body. We got penetration-as-the-plot, foreplay as a cameo, and pleasure as a happy accident. That story leaves out entire nervous systems, orientations, and preferences. It also leaves out your power.
Let’s retire the idea that great sex is something you stumble into with the right person and perfect lighting. Great sex is learned. It’s curiosity, consent, pacing, and play. It’s paying attention to sensation, not chasing a performance. It’s a skill — one you’re absolutely allowed to practice.
Today’s POV: you don’t need to be “more” desirable; you need to be more informed about what your body likes. That’s clarity, not choreography.
THE TOOL
The starting line for better sex — doctor-recommended, FDA-registered vibrator
This week’s tool: a doctor-recommended device that intensifies your intimacy. It helps you learn your body — angles, rhythms, yes/please/nope — so both solo and partner sex improve.
Meet Crescendo 2 by MV.Health — a doctor-designed, doctor-recommended, FDA-registered vibrator that bends to your anatomy. With the ability to bend into different shapes plus 6 powerful motors, 16 intensity levels, and a smart app to customize patterns and stimulate multiple erogenous zones (hello, blended orgasms), it supports healthy blood flow, helps heighten arousal and natural lubrication, as reported in published studies. Award-winning design; great for solo and partner play with the smart app.
Deal alert: It’s currently 25% off — and you can stack an extra 15% off with code H4PPY15.
👉 Explore Crescendo 2 (and claim the code) here.
BODY LITERACY 101
Why clarity is sexy (and how to say it without dying of cringe)
Guessing isn’t hot. Knowing is. Clarity lowers anxiety, builds trust, and lets chemistry actually do its job. Speaking up isn’t “needy” — it’s generous. You’re giving your partner the playbook.
Make it easy, not awkward:
Lead with what works. “I like it when…” gets you more of it.
Keep it tiny + timely. One clear cue in the moment beats a TED Talk later.
Use simple signals. Keep / change is plenty.
Name sensations, not blame. “Softer / slower / more pressure” > “you’re doing it wrong.”
Do a 30-second debrief. “That was great — more of X next time.” Connected, not clinical.
Tools help because they turn “um, more?” into a shared experiment you can both feel in real time — another way to practice clarity, not replace it.
Are you clear on what “good sex” is for you?
THE FINE PRINT
Small truths for your body & your sex life
Pleasure is not a performance review.
Curiosity > choreography.
Safe sex includes feeling safe in your own body.
We’ll be over here rooting for your nervous system. Go learn what feels good — then bring that clarity to the rest of your life.
xoxo,
Team Necterine
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Our mission is to redefine connection by celebrating every interaction. We provide tools and experiences that empower our users to discover themselves through the spectrum of relationships, from fleeting encounters to lifelong partnerships.
