Well hi there,
Last time we talked sex, we talked body literacy, getting clear on what you like. This week is the next brave move: say it out loud. Not a TED Talk. Not a vibe kill. Just enough clarity to let your bodies do what they were trying to do anyway.
Let’s get into it.
– Team Necterine
REAL TALK
Safe ≠ boring (it's actually hotter)
If dating has taught us anything, it’s that guessing is exhausting.
The same is true in bed.
When you both know the pace, the boundaries, and the plan, your nervous systems stand down and your bodies turn on. Safety isn’t the prelude; it’s the structure that lets you play. Clarity raises the volume on pleasure.
Why now? A lot of us learned sex as performance, not conversation. We were told what not to do, and almost nothing about how to talk about what we do want. Carter Sherman’s The Second Coming nails the moment: overexposed, under-equipped, and anxious. So we’re offering equipment—tiny scripts that turn pressure into connection.
THE TOOL
The 60-second Bedroom Brief
Before things heat up, give yourselves one minute. It lowers anxiety, aligns expectations, and makes room for chemistry.
Each of you answers—in a single sentence:
In: one thing you’re excited to include tonight
Out: one thing you’re skipping for now
Curious: one thing you might try if it’s going well
During: keep it to two cues — keep / change.
After: a 30-second debrief — “That was great. Next time, more of X.”
Why it works: short, kind, specific. Less guessing, more knowing—without killing the vibe.
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What’s hardest to say out loud (right now)?
PUT IT TOGETHER
Say it → wear it → feel it
The Brief lowers anxiety and sets a shared plan. A wearable that supports arousal and stimulates both partners turns that plan into sensation. Together, they make “safe” feel hot.
Say the plan (60 seconds).
Use simple cues (keep / change).
Stay present; debrief kindly.
Bring tools that support what you just agreed to. Confidence compounds.
You don’t need perfect words or a cinematic night. You need a little structure, a little kindness, and the courage to say one true thing. Do that, and the rest tends to meet you halfway.
xoxo,
Team Necterine
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Our mission is to redefine connection by celebrating every interaction. We provide tools and experiences that empower our users to discover themselves through the spectrum of relationships, from fleeting encounters to lifelong partnerships.
