Romance today is a quiet, careful game—liking a post instead of sending a text, lingering in a DM instead of making a plan.

As The Guardian points out, dating has become a space of plausible deniability, where a soft launch is preferable to a grand entrance, and a well-timed meme carries more weight than a straightforward “I like you.”

The risk of rejection, of being the one who cares more, looms large.

But at some point, connection requires clarity. Whether it’s a text, a question, or just a little more effort, nothing ventured, nothing gained—and maybe something found.

While the majority of modern dating experiences seemingly thrive on ambiguity and low-stakes gestures, real connection ultimately requires some level of intentionality.

The fear of being too earnest or vulnerable keeps people in a loop of passive interactions, but at some point, a relationship, any relationship, needs clarity to grow.

Whether it's through a small step or a bold move, putting yourself out there, even just a little, is the only way to move beyond the guessing game.

But, maybe there’s still something to the old ways of meeting people too 👇👇👇

The nostalgia of getting set up, and not being afraid to go for it got us thinking about missed connections. And no, we don’t meet the grimy ones on Craigslist.

Missed connections have a strange kind of magic: two people crossing paths at just the right moment, only for timing to get in the way. Maybe it was a glance that lasted a second too long, a conversation that felt like it could have been something more, or just a feeling you can’t quite shake.

But it begs the question: don’t you owe it to yourself to figure out if there was something there for both of you?

Send us your missed connections - whether they’re from one of our events, or out in the wild, and we’ll put it out to the world. We can’t promise love, but you have nothing to lose by putting yourself out there.

Simply reply to this email, give us the deets, and let the universe do the rest.

One final thing before we go -

Dating (read: life) is hard, and you shouldn’t have to navigate it by yourself.

So, starting soon, we’re going to be doing pep talks in the park. We’ll post up in the Silverlake Meadow (and Silverlake Flea Market, because why not) just to be there for you.

You can chat with us about anything, send us through the meadow to try and find that baddie you’ve been eyeing, whatever. But what we want more than anything, is for you to come away knowing you’ve got this, and we’re here for you through all of it.

We’ll see you there :)