If you’ve been online at all this week, you’ve probably seen it: Brooklyn Beckham posting openly about family conflict, and the internet immediately doing what it does best — choosing sides.

Some people praised him for “protecting his peace.”
Others criticized him for airing it out.
Most people decided, very quickly, who was right.

And to be clear: this isn’t about whether Brooklyn is right or wrong. That’s not the point.

The point is how fast public processing turns into an echo chamber.

Once something is shared publicly, nuance disappears. Context flattens. Everyone responds from their own projections, experiences, and unresolved stuff — and suddenly, you’re surrounded by voices telling you exactly what you want to hear.

You’re validated.
You’re affirmed.
You’re told you did nothing wrong.

Which feels great.
And also… isn’t the same as perspective.

Here’s the quiet downside of public processing:
it rarely invites balance.

When you process online, people don’t always ask what your part was. They don’t challenge your framing. They don’t slow you down.

They comfort. They affirm. They agree.

And sometimes that’s necessary — especially when something hurts. But when validation becomes the end goal, growth quietly exits the chat.

Because being told you’re right isn’t the same as understanding what actually happened.

In group chats, comment sections, and viral discourse, we often get relief — not resolution. Agreement — not clarity. A chorus of “you’re valid” instead of someone asking, gently, “okay, but what do you actually want here?”

That’s not healing. That’s soothing.

And soothing has its place.
It’s just not the same thing as repair.

This dynamic doesn’t stop with famous families. It’s everywhere in dating.

We post instead of asking.
We narrate instead of negotiating.
We announce boundaries instead of having conversations.

And when something ends, we process it outward — collecting reassurance, rewriting the story, getting our side locked in before we ever sit with the uncomfortable parts.

Sometimes the internet tells us we dodged a bullet.
Sometimes it tells us we’re empowered.
Sometimes it tells us the other person was trash, full stop.

Rarely does it ask what we avoided.
Or what we didn’t say.
Or what might’ve been possible with a harder conversation.

Public processing can feel like closure.
But most of the time, it’s just noise.

Processing isn’t the problem.
Outsourcing perspective is.

If you want comfort, the internet will give it to you instantly.
If you want clarity, it usually comes from staying in the conversation — even when it’s awkward, unfinished, or inconvenient.

Validation feels good.
Perspective changes things.

And growth?
Growth usually happens somewhere quieter.

We’re rooting for you.

xoxo,
Team Necterine